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21 October 2008 @ 03:45 pm
Ah, It's been a while, yes? 109 weeks or so, no? During those 109 weeks, I think I've looked at this site maybe once or twice, read some of my older entries and vomited at the utter calamity of it all. Why is everything always so intense and life-changing? Can't I run away from the inner emo inside of me once and for all? Well, folks, it seems I can't. I am back today on the most dramatic of days thus far.

Because absolutely no one reads this, I really can view it as a personal diary, which is actually kind of fun. I get to spill my inner thoughts to absolutely everyone and no one at the same time! It's paradoxical and exciting!

Anyhow, Rhi surprised me at work today handing me back my car keys and apparently putting an end to our almost 5 year relationship. I can't say that I didn't see it coming. Some of the things that I've done for the past few months don't exactly prove that I'm a doting and loyal girlfriend. But, regardless of what everyone says, I know that I have been trying. I feel like I've put my life on hold, in fact, with all the trying. I'm screwing up in my last year of school, I feel like I'm putting minimal effort into my placement, and the only thing I'm focusing on with all my might is trying not to absolutely screw everything up with Rhi. Yes, I broke up with her this summer to fly out to California and see a guy. Yes, I cheated on her while we were trying to work on the relationship. Yes, I did both things. But I also came back to her. I also told her about everything because she asked for honesty and that's what I gave her. I didn't ask her to stay with me - she made that decision. I made the decision that I would make an effort to make things work - and I have.

So yes, there has been utter shittiness. So much shittiness, in fact, that she won't even tell her friends or family about it because she doesn't want them to hate me. That doesn't matter though because they already do even without knowing absolutely everything. None of it matters though because I'm so lost that I don't even know if I want to fight for it anymore. I don't know what I'm fighting for exactly. Am I fighting for it because of the history? Because she is the only one that will have secret dance parties with me? Because she is the only one that I want to sleep with at night? Because she is the only one that I can envision marrying and having an actual life with? I don't even know if those are good enough reasons or even the right reasons anymore.

All I know is that I'm not happy, but I don't even think that has anything to do with her anymore. It all feels so familiar, so high school, so undergrad, so little blue pill-ish. A gradual loss of lightness and hope.

I just don't know anymore...and I can feel the bad poetry rolling in like the one big emo-cloud that it is.
 
 
daturael
17 September 2006 @ 10:47 pm
I should be studying right now. I have middle ear ossicles to memorize and sign language to learn, but I really can't concentrate tonight. I've done all the studying one non-robotic person can do in a day, and now I just want to sit here and cry. I think my emotional status can usually be summed up by the music that I listen to, and lately all I've wanted to hear is Imogen Heap, Death Cab, and Snow Patrol. I'm also not usually big into crying, but lately it's been a daily thing. I think being out here has made me spring a leak. Everything is just bigger and more important somehow. It's actually kind of nice in a way. After being totally numb for what seemed like eternity, I'm actually feeling again. But, that leads to other non productive activities...such as getting mad at Rhi every time I talk to her.

I wish she could just read my mind, but sadly, it doesn't seem to work that way. I want her to know that I want her to be happy and to go out and hang out with friends, but to know at the same time that it just makes me miss her more. I try not to be jealous of the the people that she sees, but it's just so hard to know that she's spending all her free time with someone other than me. God, I hate myself right now. I sound so pitiful and whiny. Someone smack some sense into me, please. I just can't stand that feeling of distance, you know? The one where you feel that the divide between you and the one you love is slowly but surely becoming more vast. And the wider the divide gets, the more I start to panic about her falling for someone else. The more I start to worry that in a slightly drunken haze, the lines will begin to blur and she'll forget that arbitrary thing called committment. I'm worried it will happen to her because I know what it feels like to forget, and I don't want that for us.

And what makes this all worse is that I actually like what I'm doing here. I like the program, as hard as it is. Actually, I like that it's hard because it limits the amount of time I have to think about anything other than school. I hate the weekends with a passion. I wish it was Monday every day...give me 4 classes any day. It's easier to think about pure tone audiometry than it is about what's going on at home. But the fact that I like it scares me to death. I honestly didn't envision myself finishing this program before I came out here. Now, I think it might actually be possible. But where does that leave everything? Can we actually last 3 years apart? We haven't even been together for 3 years to begin with. I can't stand the people that say things like, "if it was meant to be, then it will happen." Screw that. Screw that all to hell. People don't wait for things to see if they are going to happen or not happen. You have to initiate something.

I saw The Last Kiss this weekend with Zach Braff, Jacinda Barret, and Rachel Bilson. Zach and his girlfriend are sort of complacent at the start of the movie. They obviously love each other, but Zach still wonders if there is something better. He ends up meeting Rachel Bilson and eventually sleeping with her, but realizes that he does want to be with his girlfriend after all of this. It gave me hope that even if something did happen...even if Rhi's lines did blur, that maybe we could start something new after that. I mean, after that what else could she possibly do that would hurt more? I guess it's like taking the first step out of hell. But my biggest fear is that she wouldn't realize that she wanted to be with me. She'd realize the opposite...

...not that I've been thinking about any of this at all.
 
 
Current Mood: drained
Current Music: Imogen Heap - Hide and Seek
 
 
daturael
20 August 2006 @ 10:21 pm
"If I lay here, if I just lay here, would you lie with me and just forget the world?"
 
 
Current Mood: completely lost
Current Music: snow patrol
 
 
daturael
12 July 2006 @ 11:38 am
So, I had a completely bizarre dream last night that is still totally vivid despite it being 3 hours after I woke up. Luckily, it wasn't one of those scary or disturbing dreams because then I'd have that freaked out feeling all day, and who really wants that?

In the dream I was at a really ritzy Tori concert where she was playing in a new building that had a really cool VIP section. The VIP section was right off the front of the stage but was totally enclosed and separated from the rest of the audience. Everyone in the VIP section had their own little window seat that they could sit at and watch the show with absolutely no one in front of them and the whole rest of the audience was forced to look in through the windows at the concert.

Somehow, I ended up with one of these window seats and was sitting with a bunch of people that I didn't recognize at all. That didn't seem to matter though because the concert was fabulous in a really trippy way. Tori was playing/singing a more tripped out version of "cooling" with these humongous flat screen tv's behind her that seemed to be showing Jackson Pollack's paintings being made. I mean, all you saw were the paint splatters being created and constantly changing behind her. It was kinda hot...

Then, sadly, the concert ended, but I guess the catch for sitting in the VIP section was that you had to help the crew and Tori clean up the section before you left. Rhi somehow managed to appear at this point and was all about the "clean-up" stage of the show, which is really funny because Rhi does enjoy a good clean-up. She was really excited though, and Tori had left a sort of "surprise" for us all that consisted of a "strawberry hunt." Apparently, strawberry hunts are just like egg hunts, except Tori had filled one special strawberry with a capsule of some sort, and if you were the lucky one to find this strawberry, you got to take pictures with Tori and her drummer! Needless to say, all the VIP's started freaking out and rushing for the strawberry. Meanwhile, Tori was just hanging out on stage watching us all scramble around and look for the strawberries. I guess I wasn't super excited about it though because I wasn't freaking out. I casually walked over to the first strawberry I found and "voila!" there was the capsule filled berry!

I showed Rhi, who was REALLY excited, and then I proceeded up on stage where Tori was hanging out and she gave me a hug, and then whipped out her disposable, Kodak camera. I think this was all too much for Rhi to bear, so she got a running start, sprinted toward the stage, jumped, and dove face-first and hands outstretched onto the stage sliding all the way to the back on her stomach. Tori thought this was the best thing ever and jumped with glee. She then proceeded to name Rhi, "Simba Lion." Maybe because Rhi was so bouncy? I don't know these things. That Tori, she's really unpredictable. So Tori insisted that "Simba Lion" be in the picture with us, which was more than fine with me because Tori was, frankly, beginning to freak me out a little. So we all posed nicely, clasping each other's shoulders, Tori and I in the middle and Rhi and drummer on the outside holding each side of the disposable camera with arms outstretched. I'm sure it was a great picture...but sadly, I'll never know.

Anyhow, thought I would get that out of my head and preserve it for eternity!
 
 
Current Mood: satisfied
Current Music: Numb/Encore - Jay Z & Linkin Park
 
 
daturael
10 July 2006 @ 03:40 pm
I'm borrowing this phrase from my dear friend Jennie because she's been saying it a lot lately, but "I feel sure" that I've been going a little overboard with the drinking recently. It's not that I've been going out all that much, but rather it's how much I drink when I'm out that is beginning to worry me a little. This whole 7 drink minimum used to be acceptable when I was at UNH, but not so much anymore. Actually, even then it wasn't particularly cool. I think I've found the way to get around severe hangovers though so I'm not quite as petrified as I used to be about, say, drinking two cosmos in the span of 10 minutes at 2 in the morning. Good Lord. Said hangover prevention simply entails about 8 glasses of water before bed time and some tums around 4 or 5 in the morning. It also helps to do "the hangover test" when you wake up just to make sure you're alright. This procedure is highly scientific and requires you to stand upright, then swing your head down between your knees, and then swing yourself back up to the upright position as quickly as you can. Two things can happen: 1) You fall down from utter dizziness and room spinning, in which case, drink more water and return to bed immediately or 2) The room isn't moving at all, and therefore, proceed with your day. I'm also way too easily influenced by certain little sisters to continue inhaling bombay sapphires and tonic or whatever those things were... I have to say that being that intoxicated makes me appreciate NOT being intoxicated though. There we go...always a positive side. From reading this, someone would think that I'm a really big lush, which is kind of funny because I'm really kind of the opposite. It was just a random weekend. But, this brings me to the point of my entry: smokers.

As a matter of principle, I have always sort of detested them. It's more the smell than anything else, and the fact that smokers are usually so consumed with their habit that sort of drives me crazy. But then there are these peculiar circumstances where I find smoking incredibly hot. There is something about the way Rhi holds a cigarette that is almost too good to be true. Maybe that's why it's so amazing, because I know that she isn't a smoker but that she can hold her own with a cigarette any day. She just exudes confidence. It's fabulous. I was thinking about this today though and was realizing that some of my absolute favorite people in the world are smokers. My science/speech obsessed friend Rachel is probably the most extreme smoker I know. The only time she quit was when she had a life-threatening case of bronchitis/flu, and even then it was just for a few days. Then we have Lindsay, who is probably the most understanding and ridiculously cool person ever. My beloved Teesha is also a smoker. I have to admit that I don't see this one very often, but she is possibly the most amazing single mom I've ever known. And how can I forget...my mom. So how can I hate something that all of these people I love and admire love so dearly? It's a very odd conundrum. Maybe there is something about all of these people's personalities that makes them more prone to smoking and that personality trait is what I like? Who knows. All I know is that if I could, I would substitute all of those nasty little tar and gasoline particles for organic vegetables and fiber any day. They totally would never notice, and all of those favorite people of mine would live about 14 years longer! Yay!
 
 
Current Mood: productive spiced with boredom
Current Music: Lightning Rod - Guster
 
 
daturael
13 April 2006 @ 10:22 am
I have to say that I'm pretty much obsessed with this song, as well as many others by the same "cutie's."  I didn't really think that I was going to enjoy the concert all that much last night because I didn't know any of their songs, and come to think of it, it probably didn't look like I was having much fun, but in retrospect, I think I was. (I'm sure that was some totally correct usage of the comma by the way). Anyhow, the concert was definitely mellow and I think everyone was pretty much just sitting back and enjoying the music. It didn't seem like there were many head bangers or drunken idiots or anything.  It was the kind of concert that evokes a feeling more than anything else. 

I am completely in love with this song though. I don't want to listen to it too much though because I have a tendency to do that, and then it loses it's magic...and that would be a tragedy.

I Will Follow You Into The Dark - (Death Cab For Cutie)

Love of mine some day you will die
But I'll be close behind
I'll follow you into the dark

No blinding light or tunnels to gates of white
Just our hands clasped so tight
Waiting for the hint of a spark
If heaven and hell decide
That they both are satisfied
Illuminate the no's on their vacancy signs

If there's no one beside you
When your soul embarks
Then I'll follow you into the dark

In Catholic school as vicious as Roman rule
I got my knuckles brusied by a lady in black
And I held my toungue as she told me
"Son fear is the heart of love"
So I never went back

If heaven and hell decide
That they both are satisfied
Illuminate the no's on their vacancy signs

If there's no one beside you
When your soul embarks
Then I'll follow you into the dark

You and me have seen everything to see
From Bangkok to Calgary
And the soles of your shoes are all worn down
The time for sleep is now
It's nothing to cry about
Cause we'll hold each other soon
The blackest of rooms

If heaven and hell decide
That they both are satisfied
Illuminate the no's on their vacancy signs

If there's no one beside you
When your soul embarks
Then I'll follow you into the dark
Then I'll follow you into the dark


I hope you all had fabulous nights as well!

-Eliza
 
 
Current Mood: emotional
Current Music: see entry
 
 
daturael
12 April 2006 @ 03:25 pm

Just a little something I thought I'd try. Any suggestions would be much appreciated!


    


Pros                                          
 
Kick ass women's b-ball team!                                      
Obviously adorable mascot                                            
Closer to home                                                              
Beautiful campus                                                          
East Coast                                                                       
More liberal than Illinois
Close to DC (wouldn't be bored out of my mind)
The director of the clinic is super nice
Good opportunities for placement

Cons

Would potentially (if I got the job) have to work 20 hrs/week
Not as much time to come home because I'd be busy all the time
Not as safe as Illinois?
Assistantship might not cover summer tuition
                                      

         

Pros                                                       

Cost of living would be cheaper 
Would only have to pay for fees                                                   
The director also seems really nice                                            
Good men's bball team                                                                                                                  
Not working as much (more time to come home)                
Family in Illinois (could be a pro or a con!)                                  
The campus also looks gorgeous                                                 
Safer neighborhoods? (I could be making this up)
Knew the fight song by heart at 4 (my mother went there)
 
                                                       
Cons 
      
Conservative atmosphere (potentially)
Obviously not a very politically correct mascot!
More time on planes! 
Tornados!
The flatness...
The corn...

So...any ideas? They seem to come out pretty evenly, eh? It kinda seems like the cons for Illinois are a tad bit irrational, but true nonetheless. I can still hear Rhi whispering "hot...it's really really hot" in my ear while doing the cons for Illinois last night. I have a feeling she won't be visiting in the summer if I go there. :) We'll see though...

Anyhow, I'll do a real update soon. I swear!

-E

 
 
Current Mood: fickle
 
 
daturael
10 April 2006 @ 10:00 pm

So this isn't really an entry in the true sense of the word.  It's an entry for the specific purpose of saying that I'm going to update soon. Or at least, I'm going to TRY to update soon. I feel like I have some significant news to get out to the livejournal atmosphere because, you know, I haven't put anything out there for about six,  seven? months? Something like that.  But to tide everyone over until then (I think there might be four of you now), I'll just leave you with some tasty tidbits from this weekend (Linzfest 2006). It was the first big bachelorette party that I've ever been to. Well, at least the first one where I didn't end up in some guy's limo on the way to a strip club. And yes, we did make it to the strip club, and no, I didn't stay long. But anyhow...different story! This party was much more organized, complete with to-do lists for the bride-to-be and a fancy decorated bucket for later on in the night if she needed it. Thankfully, she didn't. Linz is just cool like that anyway. She's a fun girl, definitely a keeper. The whole thing went down in Killington, VT,  which is really a pretty place. Who knew?! There was the cutest town on the way up called Woodstock. It was pretty much a tiny little Portsmouth situated at the foot of some of those things called mountains (to me) and bunny hills (to those from the West Coast).  Either way, there was the cutest little bookshop there with the cutest and softest dog just laying on a dog bed in the children's section. I think he was a swiss mountain dog, but I'm not sure.  All the bridesmaids were such a blast though, and I had a really good time just getting to know them and all of their really distinctive personalities. I think Rhi had a good time too as evidenced by her breaking into the robot at the end of the night on Saturday. She's such a good time. :)  Here are some photos!



           

This would be the three of us with the bride's lovely headgear.  It was iffy at the beginning of the night whether or not she was going to go all out, but it was clear by the end of the night that she wasn't holding back:


        

For more photos, check out Rhi's blog because I'm sure she'll probably get around to adding more before I do. She's all technologically inclined and whatnot. 

This brief exchange has been refreshing, but I have to go catch the latest episode of Everwood. (Yup, still a WB whore).  I have lots to update about though including the women's NCAA championship game (tickets next to the ESPN booth!), the McBaby/Muffin Man (born in November, but haven't so much updated about him yet, and that's just wrong!), and lastly...the graduate school. Hopefully, I'll get to that soon. I hope all are well!

-E
                             

 
 
Current Mood: awake
 
 
daturael
16 February 2006 @ 11:46 am

Decide which 6 words describe me best!  http://kevan.org/johari?name=daturael  And then put this in your journal so that I can do the same for you!

Love,
Me

P.S. Songs that I am obsessed with recently are:

1) Come Downstairs and Say Hello - Guster
2) If I Start To Cry - Edie Carey
3) Thinking it Over - Dana Glover
4) La Tortura - Shakira
5) Drop It On Me - Ricky Martin 

How's that for eclectic?

 
 
Current Mood: energetic
Current Music: Thinking It Over - Dana Glover
 
 
daturael
08 February 2006 @ 03:51 pm

Just a quick note to mention that if there were a soundtrack to my life, I would want Sia's song Breathe Me and Tori's Taxi on it. Rhi surprised me one morning with a mix that she made on a little mp3 player, and both of those songs were on there. I didn't realize how completely I loved them until I was walking around with them literally playing in my head along Huntington Avenue. They're just so full of longing. I adore them. It also helps that Breathe Me is the exact same beat as my normal walking pace. Sometimes it's hard to walk to the other songs because I find myself either speeding up or slowing down accordingly. You just wait, sooner or later I'll be known as that really strange girl around campus who speeds up or slows down randomly while walking.

Also, I really love those new Sony Beans. It's the Sony equivalent of an Ipod, I think. I've decided I don't really care about having the latest and greatest technological advances. I just want them to look cute, and let me tell you, that bean...it's adorable.

Ok, almost time for me to leave.

Until next time,

-me

 
 
Current Mood: chills
Current Music: Sia - Breathe Me
 
 
daturael
22 December 2005 @ 12:57 pm
You Should Learn French

C'est super! You appreciate the finer things in life... wine, art, cheese, love affairs.
You are definitely a Parisian at heart. You just need your tongue to catch up...
 
 
daturael
22 December 2005 @ 12:49 pm
You Passed the US Citizenship Test

Congratulations - you got 7 out of 10 correct!
 
 
daturael
21 December 2005 @ 03:44 pm
Apparently, this is my song of 2005! Definitely a great song to listen to in the car...really loudly.

Your 2005 Song Is

Since You've Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson

"But since you've been gone
I can breathe for the first time
I'm so moving on"

In 2005, you moved on.
 
 
daturael
14 December 2005 @ 09:22 pm

Alright, and now for your viewing pleasure for real this time...

    

 

 
 
Current Mood: fidgety
 
 
daturael
14 December 2005 @ 03:53 pm

I'm getting semi stressed out about getting everything done that I need to in order to apply on time for grad school. I'm already not applying to one school because the deadline is too soon. It's also because I probably wouldn't even go there even if I got in. As much as I think I want to move far away and be farther south, I just can't. It's that simple. For some odd reason, I've become really close to my family ever since I graduated from high school and so the thought of moving away and missing everything just makes me all twitchy. And by twitchy, I mean sad. In case you couldn't guess that already. I love the idea of moving to North Carolina and being all self sufficient and happy in a new place, but missing the goings on of Isababe, little Duncan, and James would just be impossible. I don't want to be one of those aunts that never sees her neices and nephews. I want to be the aunt that they come to when they're fed up with their parents and want to hang out and go shopping or to a movie or to a basketball game. And I have a sneaking suspicion that at least one of them might get fed up with their parents at some point...I mean, it happens, it's only natural.

So, I'm going to have to cut this short because the Rhi just called and she's a little early to come get me. But! I wanted to show everyone the beautifulness of our living room avec le Christmas Tree! We pretty much used the tackiest ornaments we could find because, as far as I'm concerned, the tackier the better when it comes to Christmas Tree ornaments. I think we still have purple paper cows that my sister made when she was six on our Christmas Tree at home. None of that pottery barn crap for us! Plus, the only ornaments we had to choose from were ones that Chris's grandmother gave us. Not that I'm complaining at all. I loved the pastel pink bulbs with little flowers on them! They were tres adorable! And now for your viewing pleasure...

Blasted! This isn't working...but I'll figure it out soon, I promise. Until then, have a very merry season!

 
 
Current Mood: productive
 
 
daturael
02 December 2005 @ 11:37 am

So I think maybe part of the problem with me writing in this on any regular basis is that the font is just too damn small. I feel like I write pages upon pages of good, rambling stuff and then when I post it, it looks all tiny and measly compared to everyone else's livejournals or blogs or whathaveyou. Is whathaveyou really a word? If so, I like it. Almost as much as nonetheless, but not quite. So, in summary, I think I might switch things up a little bit for this livejournal post. Maybe I'll even change the colors! I know, I'm quite the daring one, aren't I?

So the holiday season has descended upon us. And once again, even though I always think that I'm going to despise the entire winter season, I end up feeling completely giddy from the kick-off of the radio city rockettes in the Macy's Day Parade:

                                                 

right up until the opening of gifts on Christmas morning. Unfortunately, I don't have a picture of my family opening up gifts on Christmas morning as I'm sure it would just be thrilling for everyone. Needless to say though, there are so many more exciting things about Christmas between Thanksgiving and the 25th that deserve to be mentioned too.

1. Making Christmas Lists! There are lots of lists to make around Christmas and list making just happens to be one of my favorite past times. Lists of things to buy all the relatives and friends, lists of groceries for Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, Lists of Christmas wishes for Santa Claus (if you are Isabelle, James, or Duncan), from J.Crew if you are my sister or me, and from a sharpening supply warehouse of some sort if you are Wayne. Any sort of way you slice it, lists are such the good time. Especially with stickers!

2. Making Cookies: Chocolate dipped shortbread, frosties, sugar cookies, oatmeal chocolate chip, the ones with the hershey kiss on top. There just aren't good enough words to describe the pure chocolaty bliss of it all.

3. Christmas shopping in department stores! I know that some people dread this more than anything else in the world. I probably would too if I was in a hurry and needed to get a Christmas present -- stat! But sometimes it's just great to go hang out at a department store for a little while and relish in the holiday ambiance. Once again, sounding crazy, I realize. I just love all the christmas decorations though and how everything is draped in big, bright ribbons of red and gold bows. It's fabulous! Plus, department stores are the best because you can mosey on over to the fragrance section and smell all of the ridiculous new perfumes of the rising pop stars. Fantasy by Britney, with the hint of marshmallows, snow cones, and butterfinger happens to be one of my personal favorites.

4. The Nutcracker...

                                                          Need I say more?

5. The Muppet's Christmas Carol. By far, the best version of the Christmas Carol ever made. Gonzo totally nails it as Charles Dickens.

6. Christmas trees! I have mixed feelings about the whole debate over what to call Christmas trees. I can understand that we (by "we" I mean anyone who celebrates Christmas whether they be Christian, Agnostic, or just into holidays) don't want to alienate anyone by strictly calling these decorations Christmas trees. We want to be politically correct and make sure that everyone is welcome to celebrate the holiday season, but really it's all just crazy talk. I have a sneaking suspicion that pretty much everyone in their right mind knows that those tall things with needles that are all decorated with lights and a star on top are called Christmas Trees. I would kind of think that people who celebrate other holidays like Chanukah or Kwanzaa wouldn't want them to be called Holiday Trees because decorated trees play no role in their holiday. A better idea would be to have a menorah set up next to the Christmas tree. Everyone can be included!

And there are many more I'm sure, but to be honest I'm a little spent after that Christmas Tree debate. But wrapping presents, soy peppermint hot chocolate, and Christmas Carols would no doubt have made the list.

In other news, Duncan has arrived! He was born on Wayne's birthday, November 19th, and is in fabulous health! He's a complete cutie and pretty much just sleeps all the time. He's probably just resting up because he's going to need some super power energy if he plans on keeping up with Isabelle at some point. Jenny is pretty much my hero to say the least. I have no idea how she just does things. You know? Just plows through life's obstacles with the greatest of ease. She needs to give lessons.

I hope everyone has a great weekend and a wonderful holiday season, whatever wonderful holiday it is you choose to celebrate!

 

 
 
Current Mood: Sugar Plummed
 
 
daturael
14 November 2005 @ 02:16 pm

Has everyone seen the movie Spanglish? I think its definitely one of the best movies I've seen in a long time. Some of the dialog is just so odd, but it makes perfect sense. I wonder who wrote it actually...I'll have to look that up. Anyway, in one of the deleted scenes, Tea Leoni is having a conversation with her husband (Adam Sandler) about the wonderfulness of sod. At least I think the word is "sod." If sod is the grass that you can just roll out like a carpet on top of dirt and have it look like a lawn, then sod is what I'm talking about. She was saying that she wished everything was as easy as rolling out sod on top of dirt and making something really messy look fabulous even though beneath the surface there's a whole lot of mess going on. In the movie it was obvious that this was a metaphor for their relationship...denying the existence of an obvious problem and covering it up with something that resembles honesty and love, but really isn't. This entry has taken a turn for the serious when really I hadn't meant it to at all. I just started thinking about that scene this morning on the way to work when we drove past a newly finished park. Days earlier it was pretty much a battle zone with bulldozers and dirt piles everywhere, but when we drove past today it was all shiny and green with newly painted lamp posts and cobble stoned pathways. It made me wonder though: If you put sparkling new sod on top of a muddy mess for long enough, will the sod start to grow roots and actually become grass, become something real and natural even though at first it was essentially a band-aid or quick fix? And in turn, can real emotion blossom out of something that was initially only surface deep? It's kind of like arranged marriages, I guess. I think we've probably all heard the stories about two people who were "betrothed" and even though there isn't a natural and easy love between the two, they somehow find respect and appreciation for each other that may or may not gradually drift toward something similar to love. I don't know of anyone though who would choose the gradual appreciation over the feeling of being overcome completely with raw emotion. Anyhow, I was just thinking.

In other news, Duncan is almost here! My sister asked me if I wanted to be in the room while she's actually in labor. I think it will be an amazing experience, but one that will no doubt make me suffer from nightmares. Who knows though, this could be my chance to overcome the fear of pregnancy. Mostly though, I think it will be good to have that experience with my sister. Our relationship sometimes resembles the sod mentioned earlier, and I think this will be a good opportunity to see her truly be herself. I don't think she holds back really, but I don't think she tells me everything she's thinking either. That could just be a family trait though...

Anyway, I'm rambling. Hopefully I'll have news of the little one soon!

 
 
Current Mood: exuberant
 
 
daturael
06 October 2005 @ 09:29 am

So I was watching America's Next Top Model last night, which is incidentally my absolute favorite show, and I came to the realization that it's just impossible for some gay women to look hot in 8-inch heels. Don't get me wrong, Kim (the gay contestant on the show), is a really attractive girl but the judges haven't come to the realization that what makes her hot is that signature swagger, the strut, and the pure gay aura. But she's stripped of all of that raw confidence and pure gay goodness when she's forced to wear ass-tight clothes and parade around in fashion stilts that would obviously look better on any of the other girls. It's just like asking the other girls to dress up in twelve layers of polo shirts with the collars up, saggy boy jeans, and pumas and then asking them to do their best impression of a frat boy. I think they'd probably all look pretty ridiculous, wouldn't you think? But the fabulousness about gay women is that some of them (myself not included) can pull that look off and look damn hot doing it. Tyra did give Kim some good advice though before she almost sent her packing. She recommended that Kim invest in some male fashion magazines so that she could get a feel for some of the poses that she could strike and just how she could be presenting herself in general. And let me just say that I absolutely adore Tyra. I really hope that her personality on the show isn't all a facade. I hope that she really is the sweetest, most down-to-earth woman ever who can somehow relate to every girl on the show regardless of their personal history. I hope that you can't fake something like that. Although, I have a hard time believing that one of the most recognized fashion models in the world could be that sweet. I'm definitely willing to be naive though. On a side note, it will be interesting to see if Kim has any more random hook-ups with any of the other girls now that her "lovah" has been sent home. It was really sad to see that actually. Quite touching...the lingering embrace goodbye and the stifled tears. Ah well, we can only hope that they keep in touch.

So on to things not of the reality television nature; Nickelcreek is tonight, and I'm very excited about that. Although, I feel like I should be listening to them right now in preparation. The good thing about fiddles though is that you never have to know the song to get your jig on anyway. Also, this weekend is Rhi's friend Sara's wedding. The wedding is in York, and I'm really looking forward to the whole thing because Rhi and I are staying in a bed and breakfast in Eliot for the weekend and hopefully going kayaking on Saturday in the Portland area. I don't think I'll ever not be partial to Maine. It's just home. 

Anyhow, on with the day, I say. Have a great weekend!

-E 

 
 
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daturael
21 September 2005 @ 02:18 pm

Today I decided that I really want to go to an improv show this weekend. That's partly because there was a whole article about the many improv shows around Boston in the Metro today, but it's also because I'm slightly obsessed with Who's Line is it Anyway and anything that is even remotely similar to that would be a fabulous time in my book. I used to love the improv group at UNH although their name slips my mind right now. They used to play this game where they would act out a skit and one person would make the people in said skit either repeat the line they just said or say it backwards or make the people do the whole scene again in reverse. And despite my being really horrible at describing the whole thing, I swear it was really funny.

Oh Oh, and Rhi just got tickets to Nickelcreek! NOT Nickelback mind you. Two similar names and two very dissimilar bands. I have a feeling that people going to a Nickelback show would be half our age and people going to the Nickelcreek show will be about twice our age, so you know we should fit in nicely seeing as how we are pretty much 45 years old anyway. I haven't found the strength or the will recently to get all dressed up and go out dancing. I feel the inner hoodlum in me is gradually fading away. I'm not ready to surrender yet, however, and am determined to muster up some sort of teenybopper energy this weekend at some point. I think Rhi and I are just total opposites though. It seems that whenever she wants to go out, all I want to do is snuggle up and watch the OC, and when I want to go out, all she wants to do is snuggle up and watch the red sox. Ah well...maybe we'll be inspired on Friday night.

Oh Oh! And the most exciting news of all?! We have two new pets! (see, I warned you...I really am 45). Two betta fishes! Fishi? Fish? Fishies? Mine is purple, pink, and blue and despite my knowing that said fish is a boy, HER name is Daphne. I suppose my fish could just be a gay fish though. A drag queen fish? She's just too beautiful to be anything but a girl though. Therefore, I'm a horrible pet owner because I'm not accepting my fish for who she (sorry he) really is and therefore inflicting emotional trauma. She'll get over it though. And then we have Phineas or Fin for short. He is Rhi's fish, and she's obviously a much hipper pet owner as she is able to accept her fish for what he truly is. He is also very pretty, but in a more masculine way...I believe she called him "handsome" the other day, which was a very odd word coming from her mouth.

Anyhow...I'm having a lack of interestingness today so I'll leave it at that.

-passionfish

 
 
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20 September 2005 @ 10:41 am
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